Macy Lee Snead

Macy Lee's birth began with the classic pregnancy dread: my water broke in the grocery store! Just like everyone said it wouldn't do and that I shouldn't worry about such stuff! Anyway, my husband, in his infinite husbandly wisdom asked, "Are you sure you didn't pee on mistake?" and when I said I was sure, he took off running out of the store and left me standing there with a cart full of groceries!

By the time I got out of the store he had pulled the car around for me and we went home. This was about 7:00 pm. I wasn't having strong, painful contractions: they were painless, like Braxton Hicks, although they were coming regularly, about 10 minutes apart. We decided not to call the doctor yet because we felt that they would tell us to come right in, and I really felt that I would rather get some rest first since I was not uncomfortable. We did call our parents, who totally freaked out because we hadn't called the doctor, and both sets of grandparents-to-be set up a vigil to call us every half hour and bug us (just a note: that's a good natured "bug"!) until we finally caved in and called the doctor a little bit after 10 pm.

We left our home about 10:30, got to the hospital at around 11:30, the doctor put me on an external fetal monitor, and after several hours I still couldn't even feel my contractions, and the doctor concluded that I was not in labor, and told me to go home. He said that if nothing happened within the next several hours they would induce labor due to my water situation. My husband and I, however, noted from the readout on the monitor that my contractions were very regular, and about 5 minutes apart by this time, so we were confident that things would move along. We left the hospital at 3:00am and got home a little before 4 am. I got into bed at 4:00 and was awakened at 5:00 with a whopper contraction. (The moral of this story is do what YOU believe is best for you! I could have been at home asleep and instead I sat up the whole night!)

Anyway, back to my contractions....They were very strong and regular, still about 5 minutes apart, but I was unable to sleep so I went downstairs, put on soft music, and meditated, trying to concentrate on staying calm and relaxed. By about 8am, we left on the hour trek back to the hospital.

Upon my arrival, they checked me and I was about four centimeters dilated (I had been 3cm and 100% effaced for the past month). I was very uncomfortable everywhere except in the bed, so I labored there the whole time. My husband was wonderful. He stayed by my side the whole time, mopping my forehead with a cool rag and sneaking me water with my icechips when the nurses weren't looking! At about 12:30 I began to feel the urge to push. I was checked again and was at 10cm. I pushed for an hour and 10 minutes. Macy was born at 1:40pm. Her father cut the cord. It was the most emotionally overwhelming experience of my life. Nothing could have prepared me for what I felt when I held her the first time. I cried uncontrollably, 1/2 laughing because my empty belly was jiggling so! She was 9 pounds, 4 ounces and 22 inches long. It was the happiest moment of my life.

I do have to mention that my husband and I took Bradley childbirth classes and they were by far the best money I ever spent. I chose Bradley because I knew all along that I wanted a totally unmedicated birth if at all possible, and the information I learned there gave me the strength and the knowledge I needed to go through with it and to decline the drugs and epidural when they were offered.

The only thing I did not care for was that about 10 minutes before she was born, the doctor gave me a surprise episiotomy, which I DID NOT want, and I ended up with a painful third degree tear and about 15 stitches. (The moral of this story is make it very VERY clear to your doctor if there are procedures that you feel very strongly that you do or do not want!)

That was five years ago. I am now 3 1/2 months pregnant with our second child. Macy told us that she knows God gave our family another baby because He heard her praying for one. Wow. She went with her father and me today and saw the ultrasound of her new baby sister/ brother. She is going to be a wonderful big sister. I'll write when the baby is born and let you know how it turns out!

Macy's Mommy